Learning to love and approve of yourself is a key which, will unlock your treasure chest of abundance, prosperity, and love.
I always highly recommend that people love, love, love, love themselves, give themselves a hug, a pat on the back! You’re the best you there is in the whole world, there ain’t nobody else in the Universe quite like you!
If you are really brave try the following exercise:
Grab yourself a mirror, look yourself square in the eye, and proclaim to yourself, right out loud and with great confidence, gusto, and enthusiasm: “You are beautiful! You are the very best you on the planet! You’re a walking miracle!!! I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU! I JUST LOVE YOU TO BITS!” Now, hold your own hand, (right hand in left) and say, “Thank you, I love you to!”
Now you may want to lay down and rest for awhile, because you have just gone a long, long way in a very short time, and it can wear a person out.
It is quite all right to love your self; there is nothing perverse, narcissistic, or selfish about it (and it won’t make you go blind or grow hair on the palms of your hands). In fact, it is an absolute prerequisite to living a life that is full, content and happy. After all, how could you expect any one else to love you, if you don’t love, or even like your self? Furthermore, if you don’t like or love yourself, you may unconsciously assume that someone else that does want to love you is nuts, and not even want to associate with a person like that.
It may help to think of it like this: If you love some one else it only stands to reason that you would want the best of everything for them. You would want them to have an abundance of love. You would want them to have an abundance of trusted and loyal friends. You would want them to have a wardrobe of beautiful clothing. You would want them to be employed in work that is fulfilling, satisfying, and richly rewarding in every way including financially. You would want them to have a beautiful car, one that they really enjoy driving. You would want them to be healthy in every way. You would want them to be emotionally well balanced. You would want them to treat themselves with care. You would want them to have plenty of healthy wholesome foods to eat. You would want them to be strong and vibrant. You would want them to get plenty of sleep, rest, and recreation. You would want them to………….. BE HAPPY, LOVED, AND LOVING!
Furthermore, you would do everything in your power to see to it that they had all that they desire. You would go to the ends of the Earth for them. You would write them love letters and mushy poems. You would invest quality time with them: long walks, picnics, movies, drives in the country, in short you would share with them whatever it is that they like to do best. Love YOURSELF FIRST, do all of these things for yourself. Treat yourself in the same ways described above and then, you will have all of this to share with your family, friends and loved ones. You can’t give out something you don’t have. Love yourself and you will have an abundance of love to give away to others. Always, always, always try to give more than you receive, especially where love is concerned What you give out always comes back multiplied.
The idea of self-love is very scary to many people because of belief systems installed by advertising, and by usually well meaning family, friends, teachers, etc. We all have been told that we’re not good enough, don’t measure up, to tall, to short, etc, etc. After a while we unconsciously begin to believe these concepts about ourselves. I call them transparent beliefs; they are solidly in place, but we can’t see them nor are we consciously aware of them. However, they effect our lives in a big way because we filter our response to life’s events through them. Negative transparent belief systems can be stubborn to change, because they are deeply rooted. A good way to begin to erode away negative transparent belief systems is with positive affirmations; statements about yourself that are positive, personal and persistence. Here are some good examples from Louise Hay’s book, You Can Heal Your Life:
I love my self; therefore I take loving care of my body.
I love my self; therefore I work at a job that I truly enjoy doing.
I love my self; therefore I provide my self with a comfortable home that fills my needs and is a pleasure to be in.
I love myself; therefore I live totally in the now, experiencing each moment as good and knowing that my future is bright and joyous and secure.
Start working with these and then create new affirmations that will build self-esteem and self-love, moving you towards the life you dream of and deserve.
©2002 Rick Nichols
Rick Nichols, an expert on Human Potential, is a storyteller, author and international speaker. Rick inspires people to a new level of thinking about who they are, what they’ve got, and how to more successfully and effectively bring themselves to the world. His programs result in higher self-esteem, improved interpersonal relationships, greater synergy and enhanced creativity.
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